"Pregnancy is supposed to be a time of hope, joy, dreams and expectations. It is taken for granted that the mother-to-be is happy in her present state, looking forward to childbirth and motherhood. So deep-set is this belief, that when a pregnant woman complains of feeling low, or seems easily irritable, weepy, moody or lethargic, people around her are surprised and impatient. She is asked to cheer up because 'you will harm your baby', thereby making her feel guilty of being a bad mother. Or she's told that she is being unnecessarily fussy, which may indicate that she is craving attention. If the feedback to her condition is one of neglect or avoidance, she is hardly likely to open up to her doctor either, fearing a similar reaction. She may drag herself deeper into a dark mental state, neglecting herself, internalising her feelings and withdrawing into a place where she feels lonely, guilty and afraid. It has been recognised, researched and analysed that there are stress factors in pregnancy that cause conditions ranging from minor mood swings to major depression. The short and long-term effects can affect the outcome of the pregnancy and also lead to post-natal depression, neglect of the newborn and herself, and–in extreme situations–suicide, Munchausen's Syndrome by Proxy, and homicidal tendencies. source: http://health.indiatimes.com/articleshow/1169716.cms"
Reading this article make me realized that I should take things positively, I want this baby...I'm ready for the 2nd child, but lately I felt some of the symptoms...mood swings...fatigue...not interested with anything happening around me...hope people understand what I'm going through, nak ckp and even nak bagi comment dlm blog/FP org pon cam becinta jek nak buat, tu yg amik masa cari mood dulu, padahal that was one of my fav things to do....the only thing that makes me feel alive is Syasya...she makes me feel strong...I will try my level best to make her happy...this time, jarang sgt cakap ngan baby dlm perut...cian dia...will start talking to you soon key...bagi Mama masa nak spend more time with your sister first...then bila adik dah kuar, Mama kenalah bekepit ngan adik pulak kan...i love you both!
Any tips for me to rejuvenate myself? feel like wanting a breakaway...too tired...unhappy!
7 comments:
Mai , memula nih mmg aakan ada perubahan hormon ..kadang kiter sendiri pun tak paham . Tapi semer tew akan hilang n u will enjoy this moment ...sebab kiter hanya ada masa 9 bln je nak bolat n montel cenggini ..im sure u will be ok in the next few months ...buat apa yang Mai suka ..kadang bila kiter duk sensorang macam macam bermain kat pikiran mula la kiter pikir yg mengarut mengarut kan . Lagi pun skrg kan bibik tak der mesti Mai penat sikit .
Bagus Mai spend time ngan Syasya ..nanti lama lama mesti dia rapat ngan adik dia . Lagi pun dia dah besar ..kiter cakap pun banyak yg dia faham dah . Moon kadang kalau penat tew cam malas sangat nak main main ngan sembang ngan dia tapi sian plak ..cam tak sampai ati ..so lawan gaks penat nih tapi bila dah start guro2 ngan dia tetiba hilang semer penat tew . Tew la kan kuasa anak nih ...sejuk je mata memandang . Yang part menguji kesabaran jgn citer la kan ekekkeke .
a ah lah moon, cam mcm2 yg x sepatutnyer pk pon bole tepikir...yup bibik xder pon one of the factors, x lah dependent sgt ngan dia, tapi syasya jdk cranky pon may be sbb rindu kat dia kan, wish dia blk cpt...kdg2 sembang ngan dia pon ley release tension sambil ada org nak massage2. Part Syasya menguji kesabaran mmg usah cakaplah, nak 'kong' tapi kita x larat, kwn mai ckp jgn dukung, x elok sbb kita pregnant, tapi kalo dah dia tarik2 nak gak, takkan nak tolak permintaan dia...huhuuuu sabo jeklah...
ha ha Mai ..bukan syasya je nak kong ...si Isk yg besor tew pun nak kong gaks kadang Mai ...adeh ..pastuh kejap kejap tgk Moon tak der depan mata jerit2 NAK MUMMY ...NAK MUMMY . Ha cam na nih Abg Isk wooo
Mai banyakkan rehat ek ..makan benda benda berkhasiat ...pegi ke spa pegi cuci rambut ekekkek kadang moon wat gaks gitew . Time MC kan ..duk saja bosan gaks ..start keter gie cuci rambut hahahhah kedai cina kat area umah tew bagus Mai ...dia cuci siap murut2 leher ngan blakang agi ...sejam tew org urut kepala ..mmg melegakan sungguh
sian mai...sabar ek...agaknya awak rasa penat sgt kot...pegi ler bercuti walaupun dekat dekat je..janji boleh relax kan diri... just u and zaimi perhaps... walaupun kita tau awak tak sanggup nak tinggalkan syasya tapi boleh le tinggal kan dia sehari kat umah mak awak ke then awak ngan zaimi pegi rehat2 kat mana2 ...relax, baring baring, pamper yourself; maybe can make u feel better after that...
ila, thanks for yr concern, ingat nak gak tinggalkan dia, tapi mak kita keje, PIL kita kat kebun, mak kita bln 8 baru pencen n umah kat ipoh tgh renovate, mak kita risau sbb hazardous. Ingat bibik blk nanti lah baru kita pi cuti ngan zaimi kot...at least syasya biasa ngan bibik, kita antar dorang umah PIL kita kalo dorang ok...
ermmm, cemana nak bagi tips kat mai ni ek... aku pon blom preggie buat kali kedua, dan tak brp nak faham situasinyer... mmg la faham, tapi faham dari segi tengok jer la, dari segi mengalaminyer sendiri tak faham sgt la kan...
i guess sabar is what i can offer, tapi mcm dah bosan jer nak guna 'sabar' tu kan... 'sabariah' pun tak larat nak dgr... hehe...
mebi instead of writing here like this ---> "sabarlah mai yer, nanti ok la tu..." is not helping much and i know that, why don't i pause and write something yg mai really nak baca kan...
so here we go... *wink*
~ focus on ur breath. sit quietly and comfortably and close ur eyes.
breathe deeply filling ur lungs from the bottom up. say silently to urself "re-lax" as u breathe deeply.
~ spend 5mins, just noticing without judgment. detach urself from the emotional judgment about ur environment and those around u. begin bringing this perspective into the rest of ur day.
~ walk outdoors. notice how nature works effortlessly, without worry or anxiety. breathe in the fresh air. exhale completely. be fully present.
~ spend 5mins each night writing down (blogging la kot) things that u accomplished, giving urself credit. these may be "small" in comparison to "life before the baby", but now take effort, focus and forethought.
~ when driving, listen to positive self-confidence building tapes or CD's. feed urself emotionally by what u listen to. avoid angry and hostile talk shows or personal acquaintances. surround urself with positive growing people who encourage you...
cewahhhh!!! mcm expert tak? hehehe... no harm trying kan mai? zz pon blajar dari internet gak ni... *hugs*
mai...
aku pon paham aper ko rasa...hehe..sbb aku penah peknan..hahah.. dulu2 rasa mcm pelik kenapa owang peknan ni mcm2 hal.. tp bile dah peknan baru kita tau kan?.. dia punya malas tu jgn citer lah..ko tau aku x leh tgk rambut atas lantai kan?..tp time peknan..aku tgk aku x der prasaan pon..lantak lahh..aku MALASSS.. pastu prasaan tu becampur baur lah.. x der mood je manjang.. tp once dah kelua jer baby..kita akan jadik diri kita balik.. lagi biler tgk syasya nanti ada adik..sure ko lagik happy tgk kerenah dia bedua beradik tu..heheheh..aku leh imagine sumer tuh... so be strong mai!!!!! jgn layan prasaan ok?!!! hope zaimi pon leh layan kan kerenah ko..hahahaha...
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